I’m going to preface this post by saying that I’ve only been living my best post-grad life for about 3 months now, so one could argue I’m still a bit in the weeds of coming to my own.
One of the hallmarks of my personality is that I’m a steady eddy. I don’t succumb to the highs and lows of emotions, rather staying in the middle. In college, this was beneficial in helping me deal with the stress and pressure of being at a challenging institute. But I’ve found that now more than ever, I feel that I am on a rollercoaster of emotions.
I didn’t expect that tackling post-grad life would consist of so many highs and lows. I didn’t realize that some days I would feel that I love my job, city, work, etc. but other days I would be daydreaming about the ease of college life. Some weeks feel incredibly hard, and I’m simply tired all the damn time, where others float by in a daze of exciting work projects, a bustling social life, and inner serenity.
Coming back this week after the holidays was particularly a bit rough after having over a week off and being able to take time to do the activities I love. The holidays reminded me how sweet life can be, what my dreams are, and the joys of being with family. Despite only having a four-day week, I dragged my feet each day of the week as I awoke in the morning.
I find that it is quite easy to get lost in the hustle and bustle of the 9-5 grind, which is why I remind myself every day about my goals and ambitions (those within and beyond the scope of work). I made sure to enjoy each moment of my break and appreciate the little things - my mom making coffee in the morning for me, being able to play with our dogs, watching movies with my entire family.
I’m working on finding ways to keep me inspired and grateful each day, even when I feel bogged down with work and there aren’t enough hours of the day. When I feel low, I remind myself that I’m still adjusting to all of this, and that it will get easier with time. I look at the goals and intentions I’ve set for myself and go back to doing things that I love, whether it’s reading a book, taking a bath, or going out for drinks with friends. Something I’ve been striving for for awhile now, that is an on-going yearly goal, is to be less hard on myself. Like many other people, I’ve always been my harshest critic, and I’ve slowly been telling her to shut the f*ck up when she shows up and provides some negative, albeit entertaining, comments.
My point here is that post-grad life has a lot of nuances that I didn’t expect, and it’s hard sometimes adjusting to it. However, by being kind to myself and setting future goals + creating a vision for where I see myself in the future, I’ve been able to make the transition a smidge easier.
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