A friend recently told me that she appreciates how intuitive and open with my feelings. I couldn’t help but chuckle in response, reflective of my surprise to her comment. I have always thought of myself as a bit bundled up with my emotions. As I thought about what she said, I realized something noteworthy. In friendships and familial relationships, her sentiment is valid. For some reason though, in romantic relationships I fail to fully express my emotions. Proof of this is ‘feedback’ from my last relationship to be more open and vulnerable - which was true.Read More
I’m sure you’ve been asked the question before, whether in a job interview or survey or self-questionnaire: what are you most proud of?
My initial reaction to this question is discomfort, for a few reasons. First, no matter how I answer the question I feel that I am a total brag. Second, feelings of inadequacy pop up - “will my answer be ‘enough’?”, “is this answer only coming from a place of privilege?”. Third, I haven’t figured out the depth of the emotions of pride and how it shows up in my life (how do you identify when you are feeling proud?).Read More
Yesterday was my 23rd birthday. Cue all of the songs, from 22 to What’s my Age Again. I thought about playing 22 the night before my birthday, but rendered it to be trite.
I typically have ambivalent feelings about birthdays.Read More
As part of the ongoing effort to stay connected with friends across the country, I called my best friend from college the other night to catch up on her recent move for her job. We got on the topic of cities, a common discussion item among us. I noted that I still don’t feel that DC is ‘my’ city. Do you know what I mean by that? As in, if a city was a person, how would its personality vibe with yours. Returning from my recent trip to Colorado, I experienced the same feeling I’ve gotten each time I return to DC from a trip: a desire to find a city that is more me.Read More
Recently, I finished reading “How to Fail At Almost Anything and Still Win Big” by Scott Adams, creator of the Dilbert cartoon. This book came highly recommended by someone whose opinion I value, so I immediately requested it from the library. Despite my lack of knowledge on Dilbert, I was excited to read this book because I knew there was a focus on achieving success and setting yourself up for it properly, which is relevant as only a few weeks ago I started on a new team at my company and have a totally new routine.Read More
A few months ago, when I wasn’t very happy at my job (or generally, for that matter), what seemed like a golden opportunity landed in my lap, in the form of a LinkedIn direct message by a recruiter at a dream company.
Beyond the fact that this was probably too good to be true, I pursued the opportunity to see if it was worth my investment. I had several rounds of interviews — which seemed almost too easy, a concern of mine considering the esteem of the company.
Before I could blink, I sat with a job offer staring at meRead More
Hi! Long time no chat.
It’s been a busy month, to say the least. Since Easter, I broke up with my boyfriend of two years, received and rejected a job offer halfway across the country, went to Cabo with friends from college, and ended up in Tampa with my family. So I hope you understand why I went a bit AWOL on y’all. But great news: Here we are.
After I returned from my trip to Mexico, my headspace was a bit fuzzy. Being around skinny bikini clad girls will do that to you, I think. It brought up some body image issues and I noticed that negative self-talk was creeping in. Lately, I’ve been trying to be more positive and on the up and up lately, so this was not welcomed.
In a moment of action, I simply deleted the Instagram app off my phone to see what it’d be like to not check it compulsively for a few days. I can’t remember a time when I didn’t have Instagram; it rose exponentially in popularity when I entered college and quickly became my preferred choice of social media.Read More
Did you ever watch the show Friends? I can’t say I’ve watched more than an episode, but it’s my roommate’s all time favorite show. And back in the good ole’ days when I was recruitment chair of my sorority, we did a Friends themed recruitment round - we took the friends theme song and changed the lyrics to be sorority-esque. So now, I know the theme song all too well (both the actual version and the sorority one).Read More
Sophomore year of college, I was in a big slump. And I wasn’t alone in how I felt - most of my friends were going through their struggles as well. We eventually realized we were all sort of going through the same thing, even though our struggles materialized in different ways: control issues with food, being lax on hygiene, turning to drugs - we really ran the gamut with our group. We all eventually bounced back; although I cannot pinpoint the trigger that both caused and resolved our slumps. I think it’s a natural progression; for each high there is a low, like a cycle.Read More
In college, I was fortunate enough not to be terribly affected by the ups and downs of college, from job offers to failing tests. I had the cool, calm demeanor. I thought it was only smooth sailing for me - but sadly, I was wrong.
Upon starting my job, I’ve experienced bouts of anxiety - something I haven’t had to deal with before.Read More
My parent’s home in Buffalo is not glamorous. There also isn’t a lot to do in the city, and the weather isn’t usually great. Despite these things, I cherish each time I’m able to go home. My home-home, if you will. Not my home in D.C., but the OG home - my childhood crib.
I love going home for a few reasons:Read More
If you haven’t browsed the personal growth section of Barnes and Noble lately, let me bring you up to speed: books on habits are IN. As a self-described personal development junkie, I’ve enjoyed learning more about habits. One of my favorite books on this topic is Better than Before, by Gretchen Rubin, which focuses on mastering habit in our everyday lives. This book has been great not only for helping me take inventory of my habits, but also look into how habits tie into certain areas of my life, such as money.Read More
I’m going to preface this post by saying that I’ve only been living my best post-grad life for about 3 months now, so one could argue I’m still a bit in the weeds of coming to my own.
One of the hallmarks of my personality is that I’m a steady eddy.Read More
Most people look back at the year and go, “Oh, thank God it’s over - the next one will be better for sure! Next year is my year!” I must say though, I think 2017 was a great year overall. And I’m not saying it just because 17 was my favorite number when I was young…Read More
After graduating college, I knew right away that I would need to make and stick to a budget in order to spend wisely and start saving. My parents raised me with the mindset to be a saver not a spender, which is something I am grateful for, that has also served as an unconscious pressure for me to start saving as soon as possible. I recently started my full-time job, meaning I now have a paycheck every two weeks deposited in my bank account. I want to hold myself accountable by making sure my money doesn’t leave my bank account as soon as it comes in, so I knew I needed a budget.Read More
This year was a bit different for me in terms of the holiday, as it was my first time celebrating Thanksgiving without my parents. In the past, my brother hasn’t come home due to living across the country or being with friends, but I have always spent the holiday with my parents. Before you whip out a tiny violin for me, let me point out that Thanksgiving is not a holiday my family balls out for (that’s Christmas). In fact, my family isn’t too big on holidays to begin with, due to our small family size. So for me, the highlight of the holidays is spending time with my immediate family, which is something I have come to cherish now that I have moved out and see less of my family.
In fact, awhile back I read this article that made me think and that I’d encourage you to read (and re-read). By the time you graduate from high school, you’ve used up 93% of your in-person parent time for life. That means from 18 until your parents pass, you will only have 7% of time left with them. Wait, are you serious?! I’m sure this differs for those who live at home during college, move back after graduation, or live next door to their parents. None the less, that’s a statistic that makes you want to put down your phone when you’re home for the holidays + maximize your time with your family. If you’re interested, here’s the full article: https://waitbutwhy.com/2015/12/the-tail-end.html.
Enough of my side talk, back to the main point here: my roommate and I decided that since we were home a month ago, it wouldn’t make sense to trek back to our respective hometowns for only a few short days. Luckily, my boyfriend’s family welcomed us with open arms to their 18 person Thanksgiving extravaganza. We spent almost 7 hours there and had such a blast, and it was cool getting to experience a big Thanksgiving in contrast to my usual intimate ones.
That being said, I found that there are a few ways to make a Thanksgiving away from home feel like you’re back in your childhood home:
- Offer to bring the dish that you associate with your family Thanksgiving. For me, that was cornbread. By offering to bring it, I was able to use the recipe my family uses as well, which was like brining a slice o home (literally) to the holiday table.
- Check in with your family on Turkey Day. I was able to FaceTime my parents as they were prepping the turkey and baking brussels sprouts, which transported me back to home - if only for a few minutes!
- Maintain holiday traditions even away from home. After a tough Turkey Day morning workout, I turned on the Macy’s Thanksgiving Day parade as soon as a I walked in the door. This was my favorite part of the day as child and I have distinct memories of watching the parade while drinking chocolate milk, getting excited every time there was a theatrical performance or when the Rockettes came on.
- Embrace new ways of doing the holiday. I realize that this will be the first of many Thanksgivings without my family, so while I maintained some traditions, I was open to new ways of doing it. One aspect of this year’s Thanksgiving I enjoyed was having randomly assigned seating, which was done by being given half of a card + finding the other half at the table. Then, under the plates were table topics, which provided fun and interesting stories all around the table during dinner. These were cool new traditions I would definitely incorporate into my own Thanksgiving when I eventually host (in like 15 years lol).
Thanksgiving was so much fun this year - one thing I enjoyed was having a larger number of people at the dinner which made for lots of people to get to know, fun conversation, and a high energy holiday. This made this Thanksgiving quite different from holiday’s past, but I appreciate both for their own unique aspects. I hope everyone had a fabulous holiday, whether you were with family, friends, or doing something totally different!
After gaining the typical freshman 15, I was determined to make health and wellness a top priority for me I became conscious of the food choices I made and started regularly exercising. I saw food and exercise as energizing rather than draining and quickly became a wellness junkie.
Fast forward years later and now health and wellness is a passion of mine.Read More
I spent this weekend moving into my apartment, which was an exhausting process! It felt like moving to college again, except there wasn't a move crew to help carry my stuff up, I had WAY more stuff, and I had to build all of my furniture myself. So basically like moving to college but worse, LOL. Thankfully my parents came down to help because they were a godsend - my mom is the home improvement expert and my dad helped lift the heavy furniture. It was such a hectic weekend but I finally feel a bit more settled into my place. I've compiled a list of ten things I've learned from this weekend, which will give you more perspective on how this process went for me!Read More
Hey! Long time no see.
To be honest, right now blogging is not my #1 priority as I am spending quality time with my family before I move next week (!!!). But lately I have been reading and hearing things that are incredibly inspiring to me, and I wanted to share a few of these ideas + things with y'all. It's like if you've ever read an article or heard an idea and stop and go, "Yes! That's what I'm talking about!". If you have any of those inspirational ideas, I'd love for you to share them with me - comment or DM me on Instagram.Read More